YOU CAN SET GOALS
The stress of setting goals stops me from achieving them
Stress in goal setting can come from a fear of failure, fear of letting others down, or even fear of success when you don’t believe you can play at that level (Imposter Syndrome). The options are to run away from it or use it as a driver. Procrastination is the run-away option
Let’s turn this around. The tension is a driver; it is a motivator for you to act. You achieve motivation in two ways. The first is to move away from discomfort (push-in-the-back motivation), or move towards something pleasant (pull-forward motivation). Both work and you can use both. Having a clear and compelling goal is pull-forward motivation and stress and tension are push-in-the back motivators.
The trick is to balance this tension. If it is too high, use relaxation techniques or the “What is the worst that can happen” technique (see Myth 21).
For more tips on setting goals, visit:
https://www.chrislchristoff.com/resources.html. See “ Flowchart Exercise in Dealing with Fear” and “Flowchart Managing Goal Setting Stress”
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