 When I compare myself to others I don’t have what I takes to achieve my goals
Comparing yourself to others in a negative way can cause feelings of inadequacy, fear and stress that limit your actions and achievement. Often you are comparing your across-the-board abilities with their specific and focused expertise; your weaknesses against the combined strengths of all of those other people. Others don’t necessarily have a better life, they have a different life; don’t compare yourself to them. Social Comparison Theory proposed by psychologist Leon Festinger suggests that people have a need to get accurate self-evaluations of their attitudes, abilities, and beliefs in comparison with others. So, what do you do? You make comparisons that drive you to achievement. The most productive comparison you can make is with yourself. Where are you now, and where do you want to be? Where you can get value from others is through traits, not through direct comparison, but through modelling (copying) the valuable traits you can see in others that you would like to develop. For more tips on setting goals, visit: https://www.chrislchristoff.com/resources.html and read “Comparing Yourself with Others” For more goal setting myths, visit: https://www.chrislchristoff.com/blog Photo by Edgar Castrejon on Unsplash
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