Goal setting Myth #26

I am not responsible for everything that happens to me
 
Responsibility is a key trait for accepting that you deserve what you want and take the steps to get it. You must take responsibility for everything in your life. Everything, whatever has happened and will happen to you, is your responsibility. You are responsible through agency (an action you intended to do) and through negligence (ignoring the situation and letting it develop). Taking responsibility for a problem does not mean it is your fault. It does mean that you are in control, taking you from victim to victor, giving you power to make changes to get results. Responsibility empowers you.
 
If you are at fault what do you do? You feel and express empathy and sympathy. Review the situation, make amends and reparations, learn any lessons from it and move on. In accepting responsibility, you do not take on any guilt. Guilt is an anchor, responsibility is a driver. Care for the wound, dress it, medicate it, let it heal, learn from the experience. Don’t keep reopening the wound, move on.
 
You are also accountable – see Myth 27.
 
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